My partner Judd and I say “I love you” to each other fairly often and without reservation, nearly nine years in, but we haven’t always done so. Back before we were completely comfortable with it, we substituted with the phrase: “I’m so grateful for you”. We use both regularly now, but that one really feels like the basis of us, even more than “I love you”s. We’re profoundly grateful to have one another and I often feel like we’re playfully in a competition to convince the other that they’re the lucky one while being entirely individually convinced ourselves that we’re the lucky one.
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